25th September 2021

Miss you M

“…‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
Revelation 21:4 NIV

The title and some thoughts in this Word of Life are borrowed from a song, Miss You C by Nils Lofgren. The song laments the loss of friends but recognises that life goes on: ‘The morning sun it don’t shine as bright, the evening stars are dim tonight…I love my wife and kids…still life is grand.’

My friend, my allotment next door neighbour, has gone after many months battling cancer, although until fairly recently he was still turning up to garden, or contemplate life. We would often have a chat whilst leaning on a garden fork or spade. Amazingly, we would solve all the world’s problems, ending the meeting with a wry smile or laugh. Miss you M.

He was a non-Christian but someone who was friendly and helped others, with a reputation for doing so. We were a similar age. I know some of his story, good and bad. Sometimes we talked about God and I wondered how such a knowledgeable, observant and experienced gardener – who expressed awesome wonder regarding creation – didn’t believe in God. We had thoughtful exchanges, and happy days.

A fellow allotment member was tidying up his plot on the evening she broke the news to me. She spoke between tears as she fought to come to terms with the absence of her childhood friend, and we consoled ourselves. We agreed that gardening was therapeutic in its own way. The tidying up was like a ritual ‘letting go’ and it seemed the right thing to do. We miss you M.

Of course the more time we spend with someone we get on with, the greater the feeling of loss.

How those close to Jesus must have missed his physical being and presence! It is inconceivable that life is a random chance occurrence, is it not? As is the notion that those not called now are doomed. That doesn’t equate with what we know about Jesus, who, we are told, is ‘the Saviour of all people’ (1 Timothy 4:10), or with the teaching that ‘God is love’ (1 John 4:8).

So, we all have to bear our losses, but we, as believers, know there is more to come; there is ‘no more death’. We look forward to seeing friends and loved ones again (Revelation 20:11-13). There are better times ahead.

Miss you M.

We pray to you Father, Lord and Saviour, to strengthen and guide us through the Holy Spirit, as in this life we mourn the loss of friends and loved ones, and look forward to a future hope of life everlasting, and righteous judgement for all mankind. In Jesus’ name, Amen

Study by Kevin Harris


About the writer:
Kevin Harris attends the Watford congregation of
Grace Communion International.

Local congregation:
Gracecom Watford
St. Peter’s Church
61 Westfield Avenue
WD24 7HF

Meeting time:
Saturday 11am

Local congregational contact:
George Henderson
Email: watford@gracecom.church

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